12 Reasons To Decline a Destination Wedding Invitation
No matter how close or far to where you live, a destination wedding is not always easy on an invitee’s schedule and finances. Here are twelve reasons you shouldn’t feel guilty about declining a destination wedding invite if that’s the route you’re thinking about taking.
1: The Ultimate Budget-Drainer
Unless the engaged couple is rolling in the dough, guests are expected to fork over the money to pay for being at their wedding. Flights, car rentals, a hotel stays can do a number to bank accounts.
2: Using Precious Vacation Time
News flash: Destination wedding guests probably weren’t saving their vacation days for the bride and groom. And if they were, they likely figured they’d only need to take a day off around the wedding weekend. But destination weddings can take a toll on PTO — and that’s assuming the guests don’t take time off after they return home to recover from a whirlwind wedding.
3: Guilt, Guilt, and More Guilt
No matter how much family and friends love the bride and groom-to-be, the chances are high that attending a destination wedding won’t be feasible for everyone. That can take a huge toll on one’s emotions, with guilt running high. If a person can’t attend a destination because of finances, it can also make them feel inadequate and insecure about their situation.
4: Travel Times Two
Guests who are invited to the bride and groom’s bachelorette and bachelor parties are often faced with another big time and financial commitment. If you’re lucky, the bride and groom will tack these parties onto their wedding weekend. But it’s all too common for the happily engaged couple to ask their guests to attend their bachelorette and bachelor parties well before the wedding date.
5: Not a Vacay Spot You’d Choose
Everyone has their own vacation style, and the bride and groom’s destination wedding pick might not be among them. So, not only do guests have to spend money and their vacation days to attend their loved one’s big day, but they might be doing it in a place they would have never picked for themselves.
6: Hard on the Elderly and Parents With Young Children
Let’s face it — not everyone can hop on a flight and enjoy an easy-peasy trip to a destination wedding. Traveling can be arduous for the elderly and people with physical limitations. It can also be the ultimate stress inducer for parents with young children.
7: You Have to Gift Give Too
Spending hundreds, if not thousands of dollars, doesn’t count as a wedding gift for most newlyweds-to-be. And even if they say your presence is enough, let’s face it — it’s embarrassing to show up at a wedding empty-handed.
8: You Might Get Put To Work
Have you pictured yourself lounging on the beach drinking a cocktail during a destination wedding? Not so, for many. If you’re in the bridal party, you’ll likely be running around helping the bride and groom to ensure their big day goes off without a hitch. Of course, we can only hope they get hitched after all your effort to attend their wedding.
9: The Bride and Groom Might Not Give You the Time of Day (or Night)
With the occasional exception, it’s fair to say that most newlyweds don’t plan on ignoring their guests. But wedding distractions happen, ranging from getting photographed to the first dance and cake cutting. All those events chip away at the time they have to spend with their guests. Before you know it, the night could be over, and the bride and groom may have never even stopped by to thank you for coming.
10: Nervousness Could Run High
Travel isn’t for everyone, and long-distance escapades that require a flight or more could be nerve-wracking for some wedding guests. While a couple can’t possibly cater to every guest’s fears when planning their wedding, it could be construed as rude if they plan a destination wedding when they have close loved ones who fear flying or traveling.
11: A Big Coordination Ask
Even if guests have the money and vacation time to dedicate to a destination wedding, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s easy for them. Parents may have to take their kids out of school or coordinate for a babysitter to watch them while they’re away. Some guests may need to apply for a passport. And let’s not even talk about visas if the couple chooses to have their wedding in a country that requires them.
12: Intentionally Leaving People Out
If you’ve ever been invited to a destination wedding and know those on the guest list, the engaged couple’s choice to have such a wedding might be curious. Before even sending out the invitations, it’s often obvious to a couple who would be willing and unwilling (or unable) to attend a ceremony across state or country borders. So, it can make certain guests feel intentionally excluded.
The Flip Side
Although destination weddings can be construed as selfish, at the end of the day, it’s the couple’s big day and they should get to choose. Furthermore, the modern times we live in mean that people move frequently; even if a couple’s wedding isn’t technically a destination wedding, it will be like a destination wedding for any guest who has to hop on a flight to attend.
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